EPISODE 64

How Shame Limits Our Capacity to Receive with Rita Marie Mendez

How can we shift our mindset from one of self-doubt and limitation to one of empowerment and abundance?

This week I had the privilege of sitting down with the remarkable Rita Marie Mendez, a powerhouse of wisdom, resilience, and empowerment. As the founder of the Stop Bending Over podcast and a seasoned business coach, Rita's journey is a testament to the transformative power of self-discovery and self-empowerment.

She shares very vulnerably where she comes from and how that informs her work today. Instead of allowing her past to define her, Rita embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Over the past 10 years, Rita has had the honor to coach and mentor hundreds of clients, supporting them in achieving six and seven figure businesses. She's helped them find more harmony, success and growth and release limiting beliefs that have held them back from having the life they desire.

The transformational journey of a lifetime is to just come back to the remembering of who you are. It's not about doing anything. It's just remembering who you are, which is this divine, unconditional, loving soul that came in to have this experience.

Rita emphasized the transformative power of awareness, acceptance, and aligned action in creating positive change. Of course, this is followed up with a lot of self-compassion and forgiveness for yourself. Remember, it’s a journey, not just a one and done thing my love.

By prioritizing self-care practices and nurturing a mindset of empowerment, women can unleash their full potential and thrive in both business and life.

When one woman remembers her worth, and that translates as wealth, she reminds the woman next to her of her worth and how that translates into wealth.

I resonated so much with Rita, in fact her story brought me to tears. Her being-ness is an example that there's always so much more that we came here to do even with the shittiest of circumstances. It really struck a chord with me when she shared her own struggles with perfectionism and overachievement, and the importance of recognizing and challenging the stories we tell ourselves.

I mean hellloooo, that’s what we do here! We live unperfected!

Did you know perfectionism and overachieving is a trauma response? YEP, it sure is.

One question Rita asked, and I love this so much, Are perfectionists born or made?

She shared that her narrative in her perfectionism was, I’ll never be like them. And underneath all of that, the shame that held it there was I’ll end up like them, broke.

We also dove deep into the concept of codependency and its impact on women's lives, exploring the tendency to say yes when we mean no, the role of shame in perpetuating codependent behaviors, and the importance of choosing from an empowered place.

As you continue on your own path of growth and self-discovery, I encourage you to remember Rita Marie's words of wisdom: that true liberation comes from within, and that we have the power to create the lives we truly desire. A life that we LOVE!

Mamas, we just barely scratched the surface with all this juicy information, there’s so much more to learn! I’ll. leave Rita Marie’s deets below and be sure to give her a follow for more inspiration on this beautiful journey we call life.

Connect with Rita Marie!

Website: www.ritamarieconsulting.com

Instagram: @ritamariemendez

Facebook: Rita Marie Mendez

Podcast: The Stop Bending Over Podcast

Take care of yourselves and therefore each other!

XO, Brooke Jean

    • Introduction to Rita Marie Mendez

    • Growing up in an abusive household

    • Initial resistance to personal development work

    • The importance of forgiveness and compassion in the healing process

    • Why was she ready to start the inner work the second time and not the first one?

    • Her experience going to a Master in Spiritual Psychology

    • The role of coaches in the healing journey

    • Are perfectionists born or made?

    • The importance of being open to receiving new information

    • The journey of earning her first million dollars and how it was connected to her healing journey

    • Perfectionism and overachieving as trauma responses and coping mechanisms

    • Attending a codependency support group and realizing engagement in similar behaviors

    • Shifting from a victim mentality to an empowered way of being

    • Introduces drama triangle concept: victim, rescuer/enabler, bully/persecutor roles

    • How individuals can be in a drama triangle with themselves through negative self-talk

    • Moving from drama triangle to empowered state by becoming co-creator with divine

    • The importance of asking for what you want and building the capacity to receive

    • Embodying qualities of kindness, wealth, and love in the present moment

    • Encourages women to show the world their unique healing way of being

    • Rita shares information about upcoming programs

CONTINUING THE CONVERSATION

I hope that you’ll join me in this movement, and that you can authentically reconnect with who you really are. That’s where your essence and your gems really lie.

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